Focus on the Family founder James Dobson, who died last month at age 89, was long celebrated as a champion of family values and parental discipline. But Dobson has also faced pushback for his emphasis on corporal punishment, and for parental advice seen as prioritizing obedience over connection. Now, some former “Focus on the Family” kids say the parenting methods that promised stability instead fragmented the very relationships they were intended to uplift. “There was an expectation that was put on us, because of who my father was and the reputation that we had in the community, that we were supposed to behave a certain way,” said Amber Cantorna-Wylde, whose father, Dave Arnold, was the executive producer of the smash hit children’s Christian radio program “Adventures in Odyssey.”